When People Don’t Agree With How You Raise Your Children


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I posted a picture with Briana and me on Facebook.

Someone told me that I shouldn’t allow my children to use the peace sign.  I also has someone say that I shouldn’t encourage Briana to make a poochie face, and I definitely shouldn’t be doing it with her.  Then, they said that we could take the picture for our fun, but we shouldn’t post it to Facebook because my husband is in ministry, and it would reflect poorly on him and the Lord.

Le sigh.

I have been reading blog posts, and it seems that a lot of folks had issues with acquaintances, friends, and family (and sometimes, strangers) that didn’t agree with how they raise their children.

There’s the homeschool mom whose extended family felt that they were sheltering their children too much with their educational choices and were vocal about the dangers of this “extreme” option over the turkey dinner, even calling them names in front of their children.

There’s the parents who allow their children to listen to certain types of music or watch certain movies that another member of their church does not feel is acceptable.  The children overheard someone criticizing their family over their entertainment, and now, they don’t even want to go to church.

There’s the family who is vegetarian, and every person who meets them that finds out about their diet feels the need to tell them the dangers of not eating meat (or gives them “helpful” Bible verses).  That one’s for you, C.O.

Maybe you have seen some of the same posts I have.

Maybe you have even experienced critical attitudes from others.

It’s pretty hard to deal with when it is happening to you.

We’ve had our moments.  I have bitten my tongue.  I have also neglected to bite my tongue, and later, wished I had.  When people don’t agree with how I raise my children and feel the need to tell me, I struggle with extending them grace, but that’s exactly what I need to do.

Extending someone grace isn’t simply a matter of biting your tongue, though.  It is also a matter of the heart.  It means not thinking ill of them.  It means letting hard comments pass by without even inflicting pain.  It means compassion and understanding on your part.

I should have two goals when dealing with people who don’t agree with how I raise my children.  I want them to leave the conversation feeling as though they were able to effectively communicate with me, and I want to leave the conversation with feelings of love toward the other person.

So, here are a few ways we try to handle it when people don’t agree with how we raise our children.  Maybe it will help you to extend some grace when you need to do so.

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This weekend has been a whirlwind.  I went out to do my bi-weekly shopping trip.  Because I knew that I planned to film it and do an updated post here on the blog, I posted a link to the original “How I Feed My Family for $100 Every Month” post on Facebook.  The goal was to bring my new followers up to speed.  Well, it took off, and we had the largest day ever on the blog.  Thank you all so much for sharing our posts!  It makes such a difference when you take the time to share them.  I can’t tell you how encouraging it is after taking the time to write and make videos to know that they actually are a blessing to others.  Thank you again, from the bottom of my heart!

With so many new viewers, we got a lot of comments and questions.  Lots of folks were wanting to know about the frugal recipes we use.  In the past, I wrote a couple of posts called “My Favorite Frugal Recipes.”  I shared “Paella and Potato Soup” and “Curry and Vegetarian Chili.”

Today, I thought I would share with you some of the recipes that we use as the foundation for many of our frugal meals.  I am talking about the basics.  Here are those recipes and how we use them to stay on budget in our home.

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