3 Financial Myths About Having Older Children

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One of the best aspects of spending so much time on YouTube is the people I “meet.”  It is so much fun to get to know others who enjoy watching videos.  Many of those folks are bloggers, too.  One such person, is Liz. She has been frequent visitor to my YT channel and even started her own channel about a month ago.  Her YT handle is The Frugal Libertarian, and her blog is, you guessed it, frugallibertarian.com.  One of the things I most appreciate about Liz is that, though we don’t have a lot in common, we can connect over the things we DO have in common.  For instance, we are both mothers and frugal.  Let’s be honest, those two things connect most of the women I know 😉

Anyway, Liz asked me if I would consider doing a collab with her.  She wanted to talk about some financial myths about having kids.  Liz is the mother of young children, and she has had to deal with SO many critical comments about her purchases that were based on financial myths- including a lecture from her pediatrician who felt that only the most expensive formula was acceptable!  She wanted to share her experiences and encourage mothers of young children, but she thought I could add to this as a mother of older children.  Of course, I have also had my share of criticisms based on financial myths, so I agreed to join her.

I know all of you mothers of older children are fighting battles, especially now as it is Christmas time.  There is so much pressure to buy bigger and better.  Don’t buy into it (literally or figuratively)!  You can have happy, healthy kids without over-spending- at Christmas time or any other time!  Here are 3 Financial Myths About Having Older Kids…

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7 Ways to Respond to Negative Comments About Homeschool II Virtual Homeschool Co-op

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Homeschoolers get negative comments from time to time.

It’s just a fact.

But let’s be real.  From the time you have your first child, you are bombarded with opinions from well-meaning family and friends (and sometimes critical strangers) who feel they need to share with you exactly where they stand on whatever it is your are doing with and for that child.

Of course, once you take a step out into the world of homeschooling, it can seem like you stepped in front of a firing squad.  Those negative questions and comments come at you so fast, you hardly know how to respond.

So, how should you respond to negative comments about your homeschool?

Let me tell you how I deal with it…

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Is Your Homeschool Structured or Relaxed? Virtual Homeschool Co-op 2016-2016 Assignment 1

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Is Your Homeschool Structured or Relaxed? Virtual Homeschool Co-op 2016-2017 Assignment 1, The Fundamental Home

It’s a new school year!

I am so excited to, once again, be participating in the fantastic online community: The Virtual Homeschool Co-op.  This is a YouTube channel (and now a blog) where community members are assigned a question every week.  They answer that question about their homeschool and share that information online.  This can be in the form of a YouTube video or in a blog post.  Every Tuesday, we are linking up!  You should totally consider joining, too!  It’s free!  Plus!  If you don’t want to make videos or blog posts, but you are interested in learning about how other families homeschool, the Virtual Homeschool Co-op has all of this information in one place for your convenience.  We hope it will be a help and an encouragement to you.

This is the first assignment for the 2016-2017 school year: “Is Your Homeschool Structured or Relaxed?”  We were supposed to answer this question in terms of our curriculum, our schedule, and our classroom.

Let me share a little bit with you about how I responded…

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Natural Remedies for Pneumonia That Worked When I Couldn’t Take Antibiotics

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Natural Remedies for Pneumonia that Worked When I Couldn't Take Antibiotics- Essential Oils, Mullein Leaf Tea, Etc...

 

I have been away from the blog for a LONG time because I have been recovering from a-typical pneumonia.  It’s a long story, so I won’t go into all the details.  The short version is that I got bronchitis, which turned into a-typical pneumonia.  For the sickness, I was given an antibiotic, which my body had a bad reaction to- INTERNAL BLEEDING!  It was awful!    After the reaction, I had to stay away from antibiotics, build my intestinal flora (which was ravaged), and recover from my illness with only natural remedies.  It was a long, slow recovery, but I am feeling a lot better.

Not perfect.  Better.

I am on my way to a full recovery, though, and feeling positive about the month of April- so positive, in fact, that I have agreed to participate in VEDA (video every day in April) on YouTube.  One of my most requested videos was a discussion about which natural remedies worked for me (the actual remedies are linked below if you just want to check them out), so I made that one today.  Here it is:

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When People Don’t Agree With How You Raise Your Children

 

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I posted a picture with Briana and me on Facebook.

Someone told me that I shouldn’t allow my children to use the peace sign.  I also has someone say that I shouldn’t encourage Briana to make a poochie face, and I definitely shouldn’t be doing it with her.  Then, they said that we could take the picture for our fun, but we shouldn’t post it to Facebook because my husband is in ministry, and it would reflect poorly on him and the Lord.

Le sigh.

I have been reading blog posts, and it seems that a lot of folks had issues with acquaintances, friends, and family (and sometimes, strangers) that didn’t agree with how they raise their children.

There’s the homeschool mom whose extended family felt that they were sheltering their children too much with their educational choices and were vocal about the dangers of this “extreme” option over the turkey dinner, even calling them names in front of their children.

There’s the parents who allow their children to listen to certain types of music or watch certain movies that another member of their church does not feel is acceptable.  The children overheard someone criticizing their family over their entertainment, and now, they don’t even want to go to church.

There’s the family who is vegetarian, and every person who meets them that finds out about their diet feels the need to tell them the dangers of not eating meat (or gives them “helpful” Bible verses).  That one’s for you, C.O.

Maybe you have seen some of the same posts I have.

Maybe you have even experienced critical attitudes from others.

It’s pretty hard to deal with when it is happening to you.

We’ve had our moments.  I have bitten my tongue.  I have also neglected to bite my tongue, and later, wished I had.  When people don’t agree with how I raise my children and feel the need to tell me, I struggle with extending them grace, but that’s exactly what I need to do.

Extending someone grace isn’t simply a matter of biting your tongue, though.  It is also a matter of the heart.  It means not thinking ill of them.  It means letting hard comments pass by without even inflicting pain.  It means compassion and understanding on your part.

I should have two goals when dealing with people who don’t agree with how I raise my children.  I want them to leave the conversation feeling as though they were able to effectively communicate with me, and I want to leave the conversation with feelings of love toward the other person.

So, here are a few ways we try to handle it when people don’t agree with how we raise our children.  Maybe it will help you to extend some grace when you need to do so.

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7 Things I Wish I Had Done More When Homeschooling

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We’ve talked about things I wish I had done and things I am glad I didn’t do.  Now, I want to share the things I wish I had done more.  These are the real successes- the things that worked well enough that I wished I had been able to pour my whole heart into them.

It wasn’t always possible.  There were limitations, many my own.

It’s the final installment in my reflection series, so here are 7 things I wish I had done more.

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7 Things I Am Glad I Didn’t Do As a Homeschool Mom

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We’ve been enjoying the wonders of nature this weekend as we have had a rather large snowstorm come through. Our family lives in the foothills of the Appalachian Mountains, to the east, and we don’t get too much precipitation of any kind.  The mountains usually block a good portion of it.  In order to get any significant accumulation, the storm has to come up from the South.  Well, this time, it was a doozy!  We were snowed in for several days.  Thankfully, the power stayed on, and we maintained our heat.  I am also pretty thankful that we had enough food to get by.  Because we almost never get snow, I didn’t take the warnings too seriously.  I didn’t rush out for bread and milk (or coffee or meats or veggies or other foods that would have been helpful to have on hand if I had known we would not be able to leave our house for days).  Like I said, it all worked out.  Yesterday evening, we were able to get our truck down the treacherous hill that is our only way out and park it in a neighbors driveway- which made for a chilly walk at 4 AM when I had to take Rick to work.  With only one vehicle, I am still in charge of taking everyone back and forth.  I tell you, nothing will wake  you up like trudging up a snowy hillside at four in the morning.  I haven’t even had my coffee yet.

It was a fun weekend, though.

Aside from the concerns about power, food, and travel, it was good to have a reason to stay home for once.  I went outside and played with my children everyday.  We cooked tasty things from scratch (did I mention that I got a beautiful Kitchen Aid mixer for Christmas?), played board games, watched movies and football games, and generally lazed around to our hearts content.  It was beautiful.  I told Rick that, if we were more prepared (wood stove and lots of food), I could live like that for a long time.

Needless to say, not much homeschooling took place.

I saw all those homeschool moms post on Facebook about their children rushing to finish school before playing in the snow.  Maybe I am just getting older (I like to think more experienced), but I am not stressed about that stuff anymore.  In fact, I don’t think I ever really was SUPER stressed about homeschooling.

While my homeschooling experience hasn’t been perfect (after all, there are some things I wish I had done), there are some things I am glad I didn’t we didn’t do, like…

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7 Things I Wish I Had Done While Homeschooling

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Homeschooling has been on my mind a lot lately.

I don’t know what it is.

Maybe it’s because I have sent another child to college and I am feeling nostalgic.  Maybe it’s because, with just me and Briana, I have more time to concentrate.  Maybe I just like thinking about it 😉

Whatever the reason, I have been giving it a lot of thought.  My mind is filled with things that I wish I had done, things I am glad I didn’t do, and things I wish I had done more.  Because I can’t get them off my mind, I am going to share them with you.  Hopefully, if you have homeschool children, my experience will be a blessing to you.

We’ll start with the things I wish I had done.

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Keeping Connections When Family Lives Far Away

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After a long week with the flu last week, I scrambled to get the house presentable for a visit this past weekend.

My dad comes every year to spend a few days with us at Christmas time.  This year was a bit different because he wasn’t able to get here in December.  Our visits are determined by when he can get off work., so we didn’t get to enjoy his company until mid-January.  I was glad that he hadn’t decided to come the weekend before this one.  That was when the flu was just starting, and I fear he would have taken home a present that would not have been appreciated.

This past weekend, I was just starting to feel like myself.  I have a bit of a lingering cough, but overall, I am at about 85%.  The fine weather also helped.  While it rained on Friday, Saturday was sunny and rather warm.  It felt like a spring day, and I found it hard to believe that we would get any snow on Sunday even if the weather report said we would get some.  We took advantage of the nice weather to visit a semi-local tourist site that I have been trying to get him to visit for years.  I took pictures, but my dad isn’t a fan of sharing his image online.  Instead, I will share with you a picture of Briana and Brian from the visit.

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Do you have family that lives out of town?

All of our extended family lives far away.  Every single one is in a different state, the closest being 5 hours away.  It is tough to live so far away from the people you love.  We are especially sad that our children have mostly grown up without extended family nearby.  There were no cousins to play with or grandparents to spoil them for a large portion of their childhood.  Having my sister far away is difficult for me.  Today is her birthday, and I wish I could be there to tease her about being older and getting gray, but I will have to do that by phone (I am too old-fashioned for Skype).

It’s a challenge to be far from loved ones, but we have found ways to make it work.  Here are some ways we keep connections with our family that lives far away.

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Homeschooling When Mom is Sick

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As you all know, I have been sick with the flu for a while.  Briana was sick, too, for a few days, but she was mostly sick over the weekend.  Monday came, and she was ready to learn.

Lately, with both of her brothers in college, she is like a machine when it comes to school.  She wants to learn as much as she can as quickly as she can because she wants to graduate before her brothers.  She may or may not.  We have been considering dual enrollment as an option for her.  If we did that, we would hold off on her graduation for a little while.  I don’t think I will mention this to her just yet.  I like the initiative.  Besides, no decisions have been made.  We shall see when the time comes.

Anyway, she is ready for school.  I am still sticking close to the bed.

What’s a sick mom to do?!

Luckily, I have some backup plans.  That doesn’t mean that I literally have a substitute come and teach my children (although it sometimes happens that a grandparent, sibling, or friend is around who can fulfill the teacher’s role).  It means, instead, that I have plans for any event that requires me to be less than hands-on during the homeschool day.

Here are some ideas that we use for homeschooling when mom is sick.

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